I found that the most important part of my transformation was to communicate my thoughts and feelings with my partner, children, friends, work environments, clients, etc. I have found honest communication leads to deep connection. This deep connection in turn leads to trust. Honestly, trust does not come easily with new people especially in my line of work. My soul work is about working with people who have been through some emotionally challenging experiences and have decided to heal and change their lives. I was there too. I know how it feels to be disappointed in love, life, and work, so I used to expect the worst or nothing at all.
It was only when I decided to really prioritize myself did I see my life change. As I began to care for my needs and my shadows, I became more sensitive to the needs of others. I noticed the nuances beneath the words my child or friend told me. I realized that I needed to give more love and kindness in situations to myself and others. The only way to do this was to fill my cup first, really give to all parts of me. My emotional, mental, spiritual, and sexual needs and desires were my highest priorities. As I tended to my deepest needs and desires in the ways that gave me the deepest pleasure, I felt more calm and open to listen and be present for others.
One of the lessons I learned in my life was not to depend on others to satisfy me or…
